Category Archives: DEVELOPING YOU!
Just a little bit ago I was having an interesting conversation with one of my very young grandsons. Most of the discussion centered around…”Grandpa what do you do anyways?” Well as I tried to explain what I do to help people and groups…another direct question came blurting out: “Grandpa Are YOU The Boss Of YOU?” And even though I began a simple explanation “speech” to him about Boss-isms…I began thinking a lot more about his question.
In real life and work Are YOU The Boss Of YOU? Without question the answer is forever “YES!”. However as I tried to give this question the value it deserves, I couldn’t help writing down some prime time TOP 10 related questions:
- Do you set a good Boss example everyday for yourself?
- Have you been encouraging to YOU and those around you?
- Do you need to “pump-up” your Boss reliability factor?
- As Boss of YOU…have you taken the easy-way-out on important decisions lately?
- Have you been a good Boss listener to yourself this week?
- Are you an inspiring Boss (to YOU)?
- Are you a Boss that procrastinates?
- Do you often or even sometimes say “that’s good enough” (as the Boss of YOU) when finishing an important project?
- Do others seek you out to benefit from your Boss of YOU priorities?
- Finally at this Christmas time and end of the year…would you nominate yourself as Boss Of YOU…for the year?
Have a fun time with these Are YOU The Boss Of YOU? TOP 10 questions and enjoy your Christmas.
Whether you are seated at a formal meeting, a motivational workshop, a team building session or just with a small number of co-workers are you ready for the “Pick Me!” moment? Everyone knows what I am talking about. That moment when the meeting leader calls on you to speak on an issue being discussed! Some people don’t look up, some go for long bathroom breaks or even try to convince everyone that they have an urgent call to take in an effort to avoid being picked to share their thoughts.
Prepping For The “Pick Me!” Moment is one of the most important skill sets to attain during your professional career. It is just common sense to understand that people appreciate and respect those that are not only prepared to respond solidly to a question/issue but also display a working knowledge on the proposed topic.
What does this mean in real life?
I believe that because Prepping For The “Pick Me!” Moment is a critical professional priority…everyone should give appropriate attention to the following TRIPLE III TIME suggestions:
- Be “armed and dangerous” with high quality information to share on the topic.
- Offer thoughts and suggestions by volunteering to participate instead of having to be picked for comment.
- Allow for questions at any point during your “Pick Me!” Moments.
- Appropriately add substance to the input of other attendees.
- Be an example of professional compromise on any challenging issue.
- Avoid “Pick Me!” Moment rambling.
- Take short but specific notes as a “standard operating procedure” during “Pick Me!” Moment discussions.
- Don’t limit your prep based only on YOUR views…but from others too.
- Prep for conflicting opinions…always.
- Finally always set a high level “Pick Me!” communication example.
OK…yes I used my TOP 10 TRIPLE III TIME message delivery format. Give them all some thought. You never know when the next “Pick Me!” Moment will arrive!
Psychologist and author Deborah Rozman at one time made this important point: “If you don’t manage your emotions, your emotions will manage you.” And I have to be honest I really don’t remember where or when I read Ms. Rozman’s statement, but it wasn’t until recently as I strategized with a colleague consultant did the term Emotional Intelligence become a priority professional development issue for me.
Emotional Intelligence is defined as: “the ability to understand, manage and express one’s emotions in healthy ways.” Think about that definition and then apply it to yourself. When you feel good about yourself and where you are going in life, your emotions help with appropriate energy and enthusiasm. On the flip side when we are down-in-the-dumps and seem to be going nowhere, fear, anger, frustration, sadness and worry take a tremendous toll on our health both physical and mentally. I believe Learning About Emotional Intelligence is something everyone should undertake. What do I mean? I mean allow personal and professional time to better understand your emotions and the emotions of those you live and work with. Consider ways to…I will use the term harness…your emotions to possibly reduce stress, anger and move more quickly to positiveness. No one enjoys being caught in life’s ups and downs roller coaster ride. I believe these are the most critical times when understanding the impacts of Emotional Intelligence can lead to a quicker, positive life or work situation.
The goal of this TRIPLE III TIME message: Learning about “Emotional Intelligence” is just to create a greater awareness and understanding of this topic as a professional development tool. Thanks to JK for sharing it’s basics with me and I encourage all III readers to do a little research and reading about it.
This TRIPLE III TIME message is difficult to write…possibly difficult to understand…and maybe even difficult to agree with…but my “community of commerce” sense prompts me to finish my thoughts.
Hopefully we have gone past the prime of COVID negatives. And during the last year or so we have asked a lot from the business and service industries regarding accommodations…right? Having employees work remotely. Spacing tables at six feet apart. Putting up shields to stop infectious particles. Purchasing tons of cleaning materials and masks. Reducing the number allowed in certain franchises at any given time. There are probably many more specific ones…but these seem to be the main required accommodations. The result was lost work, revenue, customers and in some cases company closings. Extremely tough times.
But today this TRIPLE III TIME message wants you to consider…are workers/employees prepared to help and make Reverse Accommodations? What do I mean? I am thinking about staffs coming in to work a little early and staying a little later…just to help. Possibly helping in another area of work besides their own to help the company. And not fighting the importance of returning to work…IN PERSON…because my experiences says it matters.
During these recovery times it is vital to help local businesses rebuild, rejuvenate and become more competitive in their area. Their ability to stay open, be prosperous means more jobs for you and those coming after you.
People talk a lot about “getting back to normal”. Well that means not taking advantage of COVID era world of work “accommodations” and assuming personal responsibility relating to your job, your opportunity to work and how things would change if those opportunities disappeared.
Yes it is the start-up of a new college semester…and yes I am again teaching a couple classes in American Government & Politics. It is satisfying to know and see all of the students in person and again draw on their real attendance energy when in the classroom.
It is always my practice to spend the first class period as a “get-to-know-you” moment. Of course we cover course expectations but before we end that first class I always try to give them a special word…phrase…or sentence that specializes the learning time that we will share. So this semester I told them we will discuss the need and importance for every professional to begin: “Stretching Flexibility”
What does this mean to the students…why is the combination term “Stretching Flexibility” so major that each student would talk about it after they complete the class?
Well first as I continually stress to every class that American Government & Politics impacts everyone and everything in their daily lives… “Stretching Flexibility” actions must be applied. For example in the area of education, we must continue to learn and teach with more of a non-traditional mindset. Likewise with the speed of medical science…we must be more open to the fact that quality treatments can be developed in shorter time periods (i.e. stretch our capacities to be flexible in trying new medicines).
The class will also regularly talk about the magnitudes of technology in all fields of employment and how only by Stretching YOUR Flexibility will you be able to effectively and efficiently work in the new economy. Additionally during the conduct of every class session we will address the quiet, increased personal/professional value of Stretching and being more Flexible in applying your observation and listening skills.
As we near the end of the course hopefully they will know that “Stretching Flexibility” means that CHANGE will be the most constant occurrence in your life. And finally in my pursuit of theming “Stretching Flexibility” for the class, I will challenge them to look around and see if they can locate a local, regional, state, national and/or international Champion who “Stretches Flexibility” everyday…EVERYDAY.
It will be a good semester. I wish you all could join us!
As you age the challenges of managing your time seem to grow more every day. I guess this should not be a big surprise because the older you get…the more you realize that your “time” is limited. So maybe it’s appropriate for this reason and maybe more for all of us to give TIME MANAGEMENT some special attention this week!
First think about where time management challenges come from. Are most of them generated by employment…family…personal finance…or unforeseen life issues? Second try and determine if certain circumstances drive more time management issues to you or does your life/work style build the incidence of endless challenges and thereby rob you of quality time.
I believe everyone…EVERYONE should seriously assess and personally redesign their own TIME MANAGEMENT strategy…monthly! Creatively addressing the issue of TIME MANAGEMENT on a “keep it fresh” and pre-planned basis is a professionally strong activity. We talked about it before…the speed of change…advances in technology…and a global economy…all demand a persistent TIME MANAGEMENT effectiveness review.
Ok, ok…I can hear the question: What specific TIME MANAGEMENT considerations do I employ? Well, consider these:
- Prioritize completing tasks that enable co-workers to advance their work.
- Perfection doesn’t exist…so do a good job and move on.
- Take on a leader mindset…and don’t allow for time wasting distractions/discussions.
- If you are unsure of what tasks are most important…ask management.
- Minimize multi-tasking…it often reduces product/service quality.
One last thought: My grandpa used to remind me to not waste or give away your time…”cause it comes to you in a limited amount”.
One of the more challenging professional development areas I frequently become involved in is having discussions about the critical need for everyone to: “Finish The Starts”. What am I talking about? Specifically, the topic of “Finish The Starts” deals with those in the world of work that really enjoy taking on a new project or different area of responsibility…but never seem to totally finish tasks they start. Instead, they work real hard and get an assignment to a solid level of completion…and it is looking good…but then they jump to another new or unfinished work area!
This “Finish The Starts” workplace phenomenon seems to affect all occupational areas. Administration, construction workers, techno-builders, maintenance/custodial people, educators, elected public officials, farmers and the list goes on. And remember individually they are all well intentioned, quality workers…they just need to be encouraged and reminded that they need to “Finish The Starts”!
Therefore, the goal of this week’s TRIPLE III TIME “Finish The Starts” message is to simply offer a special TOP 10 list of thoughts on how to improve addressing this issue:
- Always remember completion of one start allows another new start to better begin.
- Prioritizing finishes sets a good workplace example.
- Too many starts…equals too few finishes.
- It is OK for co-workers and supervisors to promote “Finish The Starts” as a priority to employees.
- Share your Finish versus Starts strategies to ensure everyone understands.
- If appropriate delegate Finish or Start actions to improve progress in both sectors.
- Don’t assume co-workers/supervisors can read your mind and understand/support your Finish/Start work diversity style…JUST SAY IT!
- Asking for “Finish The Starts” advice from colleagues shows leadership.
- Multiple starts with limited finishes may reflect poor time management.
- Remember: HALF DONE is just that…HALF DONE!
Bottomline: I believe everyone gets caught-up in the “Finish The Starts” challenge from time to time. So keep these TOP 10 handy just in case.
We have all heard the expression: “YOU Make Your Own GOOD LUCK!” And you have also heard the statements:
*”I have the worst luck…things never go my way!”
*”I tried everything but I am someone where good luck just doesn’t come my way!”
And what if you do a quick self-assessment…which statement best exemplifies your style/position?
I am a total believer in the phrase: YOU Make Your Own Good Luck! Why? Because as you take on certain work/life projects…your attitude/approach will very much dictate the LUCK you feel. Your positive approach/statements will be infectious and will cause others to contribute quality positiveness to your cause.
Also, the progressive energy you generate will cause you to look and research other good opportunities that may be related to your initiative and that too will convey a GOOD LUCK message. Additionally people are naturally attracted to positive people. As a result, the potential for them to bring with them GOOD LUCK opportunities and cool experiences goes way up.
Building and having a “YOU Make Your Own GOOD LUCK! attitude/approach costs you nothing. However, having a “YOU Make Your Own GOOD LUCK!” attitude/approach can result in priceless unseen/unexpected benefits.
Isn’t it always a challenge to try and maximize attendance at training sessions, staff meetings, recruitment events and/or other assemblies that you often spend a whole lot of time, energy and money planning? Then even as the activity is underway, isn’t it natural to spend extra time reviewing Who’s In The Room? And guess what…isn’t it also likely that after the session is over and the presenter was absolutely excellent…that more time is utilized discussing the fact that the room was only half full instead of feeling good about the quality of the event!!
Well let me first admit that I have fallen into the Who’s In The Room? evaluation mode too many times. My assessment of an event has been driven more by attendance expectations…rather than the excellent learning that was achieved by those participating. Simply put I focused more on those NOT in the room…rather than those who were!
The goal of this TRIPLE III TIME message is to encourage EVERYONE to always dedicate the majority of your leadership/management attention to who IS in the room for critical trainings, meetings and events. Think about this issue in terms of time management. Consider:
- Time wasted while trying to understand/rationalize poor attendance
- Understanding that you CAN NOT positively impact people who didn’t attend.
- Realizing the extra special product/service quality improvement impacts that were shared with those that DID attend.
- The importance of measuring more than attendance.
- The opportunity to have more personal/individual time with attendees that may turn out to be “priceless!”.
In closing let me say that I no longer allow myself to over-focus on event attendance. Instead I emphasize appreciation to those who honor their commitments and responsibilities…and make sure they receive the best opportunities and support I can offer.
Now that the major “working from home” phenomenon has eased and face-to-face customer service has been prioritized…has anyone given much thought about the pandemic effect on tomorrow’s “dress code”? Do you think that our recent health scare and distancing from people would/should be a reason or rationale for softening what should be professionally worn to work…no matter your occupation?
Strangely I have received interesting comments from both sides of this issue. Some say that the pandemic and work-from-home experience will lessen the importance of appropriate work attire…and heightens the focus on one’s work capabilities. On the flip side I have heard several individuals indicate that they believe workers will make efforts to improve their workplace image with “a better look” than they had maintained in the past!
Well first I have to admit that I don’t recall ever Talking “Dress Code” in any of my nearly eight (8) years of TRIPLE III TIME blogging! Second with my position on this issue I may show my age…and emphasize the value of tradition. Regardless I do feel it is prime time to give yourself a cool fresh start.
I believe “looking like you mean business”…means a lot. Looking your best displays pride in what you do and who you represent. This does not mean looking better just on Monday’s or boss visitation days. Looking like you mean business should be an every work day priority. This Talking “Dress Code” work ethic came from my Ma and Dad. Despite their farming world-of-work, they understood the value of looking professional EVERYTIME the opportunity or responsibility required it.
Bottomline: Look like you mean business in your world of work. The quiet respect and attentiveness you will receive will be worth the effort.