Today we are experiencing tough times.  No, I don’t mean the stock market is down, the unemployment rate is going up or the potential for war is growing.  No, the tough times that we are experiencing appear to be more centered on the fact that no one seems to be listening to one another and “Getting the Last Word” in a discussion somehow qualifies you as the winner.

And yes, we are all guilty.

The “Getting the Last Word” syndrome is fueled by many of today’s leaders.  Think about it.  How often in any discussion that you are involved in…is there silence while people REALLY think about what’s been said…and then allow the discussion to continue.  Also, how often if you do not instantly respond to someone’s point are you asked: “Don’t you have something to say?”  And wouldn’t it be extra cool if your response was: “No, I am really thinking about what was just said.”

“Getting the Last Word” in a discussion/debate does NOT make you a winner.  It does however indicate that you have NOT totally thought through the points that were just shared by someone else. (“ARE YOU LISTENING?” That’s my Mom’s voice.)

BOTTOMLINE:  Unless you are running for an office or are a contestant in a debate competition, “Getting the Last Word” in a discussion isn’t as important as you might think.  Instead, how about if we all try setting a new trend and reverse the scenario.  This would mean that while involved in a heated conversation you say: “I have made all the significant points I want to make…and I want you to “Get the Last Word” in…so I can listen and better learn from you.”

Who would be identified as the LEADER?